We are all at different stages of sobriety. With each stage comes a level of confidence and that can dictate how the following tips resonate with you. Just keep in mind, no matter what stage you are in, your sobriety has to come first. Be honest with yourself and listen to cues to recognize when you are feeling triggered.Read more
Let’s talk about beliefs. There is a difference between a belief and a fact. But sometimes we get caught up in believing our belief system as fact. It is so ingrained into who we are that if we go against it we feel shame and guilt. But where do these beliefs come from? And why do we choose to believe them? A belief is an opinion or conviction. It may be something we feel strongly about, but others may not. It can be a personal belief, or one society has created. Either way, we can find ourselves living a life according to what society tells us to believe, even when some beliefs don’t sit right with our soul.
I used to believe that alcohol made me more outgoing and funRead more
Getting sober can feel like a question mark. Who will you be? What will you do? How will life change? Can you be happy? Will it be worth it? Am I being too extreme? There is only one way to get the answers to these questions. Get sober. Here are some things I have done to get the most out of my new sober lifestyle.Read more
Would you rather have 4 quarters or 100 pennies? It takes less energy to carry four quarters then it does to lug around 100 pennies. This is how I look at my relationships now that I am sober. The 100 pennies are what I call energy vampires, they suck the energy right out of you. While the quarters take up less room and are a lighter load to carry. They are more valuable because they are adding to your energy and not taking away from it.
Here are 5 traits to look for in a quarterRead more
In the summer of 2021 my anxiety had reached a level that was becoming very uncomfortable. I spent a lot of time going down rabbit holes online trying to figure out how to overcome it. I don’t remember which rabbit hole it was but one day I came across hypnotherapy. I started watching YouTube videos and even tried self hypnosis at home. These online hypnotherapy sessions felt a lot like guided meditation. I was hooked and wanted to give it a try with a therapist.Read more
1. Went over my calories
Calories in vs calories out. That’s the secret folks. In order to lose fat, you have to be in a calorie deficit. If you don’t know what a calorie deficit is, here is a video by Eric Roberts, a fitness and nutrition coach, giving you the details. There was a time when I didn’t believe this to be true. I was always looking for a quick fix and the next fad diet. The diets I chose all had one thing in common. I was able to fit alcohol into the guidelines of the diet. For example, low carb diets, I would drink zero carb drinks. I was a binge drinker, so while I would be meeting my goals by staying low carb, my calories were always over the weight loss range. With Weight Watchers, I would save up or earn points through exercise so that I could indulge in drinking on the weekends. As you could imagine, starving myself during the week so I could drink was a recipe for disaster. It was not sustainable. Hear more about why these strategies failed me in my interview on the Eric Robert’s Podcast.Read more
I used to think you had to be an alcoholic to have a drinking problem. To me an alcoholic was someone who was physically dependent on alcohol. They needed it to function. An alcoholic drinks alone and hides bottles of booze in their house. And while this is true, alcoholics fit this description. There is another level to drinking that society has normalized.Read more
Moderation. You should do everything in moderation. Even moderation. But, what exactly is moderation? It’s a term that means to have self restraint, discipline, or control. If you feel the need to moderate a behavior, then you must feel that it is excessive or out of control. Moderation can work in some situations. There are a lot of factors that play into someone being able to moderate their behavior. Sometimes it comes down to knowing when moderation is working, and when it’s not.Read more